Dreaming beyond Rationality

I think about it a lot. The way people stay awake at night. What do they gain? After a long day of hectic hours in this torturous world, why spend more time being awake than to go for a sound sleep. I have read somewhere, ' when your life becomes better than your dreams, you tend to stay awake. ' But that is true and unacceptable at a very small platform. So I'll be more sound. I believe people stay awake at night thinking about their lives and creating a fantasy world that they would rather live in. Where they can buy their Mercedes, and the love of their lives is with them. Where world is so much a better place for them. People build at night. Staying awake, placing every piece as they want it to be. Where pieces don't have to be placed in a perfect manner to fit. That's what people do at night.

The fact that gives me chills is that they don't actually dream. In the process of building, they don't really build. They don't recreate. They renovate their lives. Their dreams lie in the boundaries of their reach. Or something that is possible, just hard. I mean they won't fantasise themselves driving a Rolls Royce. Why? "Oh come on! How is that rational? A middle class man working on 50k salary, what are the chances of him driving a Rolls Royce?"

This rationality while dreaming, while building is totally useless. Or rather unnecessary. People stay awake to dream because while sleeping, they don't have control over their dreams but The control on our dreams makes us stop dreaming. Because to dream, a mind must be free. Not only from stress or anxieties but also from rationality.

A Blind Date

It was a blind date which made me realize this. Yeah, not everyone of us gets a chance to go for a literal blind date this days but a blind date is more like meeting someone you are unlikely to meet otherwise. But it's destiny, isn't it? You are meant to meet that person. Only the way you meet them makes it so special. For instance the person sitting next to you on a flight. You know you'll never meet them again and you didn't plan to meet them at first place but once you start to know them and if they make your little bulb light, making you question if he/she can be the one you would want to date? because then, It's very hard to let them go. You try your best to make a connection so you don't lose contact of them. But it's not that person. It's not like she is the most beautiful thing you have ever seen or he is the most hysterical guy ever. Perhaps, she is but it's the story you are interested in. The story of how I met this girl! We all want a story. One which is exciting enough to share. More interesting to live with. And it's always lovely when you are not meant to meet them but you do. We all want that story! and the best thing about this story is that if you lose the person next to you on that flight, you'll not feel that bad. Your mind goes like, "we were never meant to be" and it's a dot. Life goes on. But hypothetically, If you had her wouldn't she be the most precious thing to you? Wouldn't it? 


That's the way we are. Humans. We always have aims and goals and plans and something that is close to our heart and something we never would think of losing but the most precious thing we ever find is what comes uninvited. Because that is magical. and who doesn't love a little magic, eh? ;)

I think I should move on while I can!

A common one liner used by us boys when the girl of our dreams, our soul-mate, the one we want to marry which is ironically every girl we like complicates a relationship which clearly is not about being just friends.

We share this situation too often, don't we? Gathered around a table with five mountain dew on it. One of us desperately fallen for a girl who is the current bitch for the rest of the group. This girl/bitch is guilty for not loving our 'Raanjhaana' back. Whatever maybe the reasons but it takes guts to love someone without them loving you back when you have no hopes of she ever changing her mind. And especially when you have not yet reached to the extreme head over heels, madly in love with her crisis and you're an experienced guy, the first thought comes to your mind is "Move on while you can. It'll be a lot of pain afterwards". Bullshit! Fuck your brain. It's not the right thing. The point, however is that nobody who has ever loved someone wants to lose his/her love. But we also love ourselves and the worst way to hurt ourselves with is by loving someone who doesn't love us back. So we are scared. Terrified by the thought of loving someone like that. And each day into such one-sided relationship, we suffer. Suffer from the idea of losing the most precious part of our selves. So every time we decide to tell her, we imply it as the best decision ever. And yeah sometimes it is! But if you are a soft-heartened guy, you're probably on the wrong train. Because for records, How good are your chances of she replying with a yes? And how often do you stick to something even after it's gone? If your records are not quite well, let her find out that you like her herself. Primarily, the idea of "I think I should move on while I can!"  is pathetic. It might seem the easy way out but no guy ever has walked away on a girl while he can. To really move on, One must fight to an extent where you either get her or your obsession for her gets dealt with. You only truly move on when you stop loving her. When your desire to get her pops like a balloon. And it only happens when you give up your everything to get this girl and still don't get her. It might sound terrifying and Tragic of course but it is not. To love with all the Passion, you need to have no regrets. And to have no regrets is to try until you have no options but to move on. So to those guys who are thinking to move on while they can, Don't do it guys. And besides you never know when a girl changes her mind. ;)

Looking for someone to madly fall in love with!

What do we go looking for? Looks? The parlors on every streets and filters on every phone has made them cheap. They are in abundance now. Intelligence? No! Girls are dumb. We know that. We might go looking for someone smart, Oh they are so cunningly smart. Some of them. But intelligence is related to knowledge and people like company of knowledgeable person but people don't love the company because of that knowledge. Or else the world would have been sleeping with books not people. Character? Yeah it's a very important virtue to be in the list but what do you consider as a good or in our case excellent character? Virginity? No. Too vogue for that. Number of boyfriends/girlfriends? No. That just derives his/her stability. A warm kind heart? That would be discussing his/her nature. So what do we see? What do we look for? Because character is an illusion. It's like looking at the moon and wondering if there can be a better moon. An ideal moon! But we don't know an ideal moon and as  far as our imagination travels, we modify the moon with our little brains but we can't create an ideal moon. We must need a moon to modify it. That's what it is. You can fall for anyone. Anyone who exists. And then you pick and pluck the moon to make it better, take it closer to the ideal moon. But we went off topic here. Didn't we? We were trying to derive what do we look for while looking for a mate. So it's not looks neither intelligence. It is character but character cannot be looked at. So we skip that. So what is it? It's the similarities. How often do we see a stranger and not talk to him if he's supporting the same team we are? Or perhaps listening the same song we are used to go crazy after since years? It's about similarities. Human behavior has a distinct characteristic of socializing. We cannot live alone and the offer of having a person who understands you and has the same requirements as yours seems a pretty good deal to settle for. So similarities. Excluding sex, Have you noticed what gave the most intense pleasure from your lover? Was it the song she was murmuring suggested by you? Was it your pet that he likes to pet? It has to be something near that.

Some might suggest the opposite. I don't disagree with them totally. For instance, your partner will make you happier if he pets your dog even if he's not a dog person because he's trying to do something for you he usually won't do. But that sympathizes things, puts you in debts, and manipulates you towards guilt. Which at long term, affects your relationship. While on the other hand similarities binds you even closer. The more the similarities, the less the rivalry. But again some enjoy the healthy fights and differences. But it's also not for everyone. So maybe next time you open your window, it might help to know who do you want to enter. ;)